Older Women and Wisdom

I spoke with a dear friend yesterday who is in her 60s and has been divorced for many years. I shared my peri-menopausal marriage emotions with her and she told me she would love to be married again.
 "What? Why?"

I couldn't wrap my mind around her comment, but continued to listen. I mean, my goodness...why at 60 years old would you want to complicate your life? She mentioned having companionship and how the marriage would definitely have to be about compromise. She said a few other things that made sense. I begin to process her words in my peri-menopausal mind and thought....well, once in my 60s, I have no idea what my emotions will be. You sure can't throw people away and pick them up based on emotions.

The word that stuck the most in my head was compromise. As couples grow older and change, compromise must definitely play a major role and this only comes with communication.

With age comes wisdom.

Scary Menopausal Thoughts

I've been having some scary thoughts lately and I'd like to blame them on peri-menopause.

Sigh...nothing at all against my husband who provides for his family and loves us, but I'm not sure I want to be married anymore. I pray this is menopause and the thought will pass. It's not a funny situation, but believe me, I'm laughing out loud! Me?  Previous facilitator of our church's couples' ministry? Me? Founder of Momsweb? Me? Encourager to many wives in struggling marriages? Yep, I'm LOL for sure!

I now understand why couples who have been married for 20, 30, 40 years get divorced! 

Wives get tired of being wives! For over half of our life, we've nurtured others. When peri-menopause hits, some things happen in a woman's body and mind that gives her a desire to want to nurture herself the last half of her life.

To be continued....

No Children

It's been a while since I posted and it's because our children were gone, so I used the free time for "me" time.
In the evenings, Kevin and I would do something special and guess what it was?

Yep! We sat in front of the television like professional couch potatoes. I think we've got it down! In Kevin's
defense, he did try to take me out to dinner, but my behind was so glued to the sofa, I didn't want to move.
I was happy and content. Mom's Taxi was put to rest and I took advantage of the rest.

The children are back now and things have gotten back to normal, but we enjoyed our couch experience and our alone time!