I Surrender!

 Wow. It's been a while since I posted!

What have hubby and I been up to? Not much. Just living life and taking our unhappily moments as they come and loving each other through each one.

I've been learning to not have to have the last word when we have heated discussions. I know I'm right, but I'm learning I don't always have to prove it. LOL!  I'm not being silent in an ugly way (I don't think I am), but in a way to show I can disagree without being disagreeable. I'm surrendering my words, my pride to be right, and my opinion. I hope I'm making sense.

Through my surrender of opinion, we both have time to process what is being said and how crazy both of us sometimes sound. This definitely invites more peace in the home and withing MYSELF! It's almost scary to know that most of the heat from our heated discussions was coming from me. WHAT?! It takes two to tango, so if one shuts up...there is no tango - only sweet tang.

It comes a time in a couple's marriage that some things just have to die - attitudes, pride, selfishness. I guess this is why older couples always seem to be at peace with one another. They've had all the arguments and heated discussions. They've dealt with selfish ways and prideful point making in conversations. They've realized that what is important is harmony and happiness in a marriage. They've realized their time together is limited and tomorrow is not promised.

Marriage is definitely an evolution and it makes a happy oneness when we learn to surrender ourselves and let our spouse win. I surrender!


Anonymous said...

I am not married but this is good advice to apply to any relationship like the one I have with my 30yr. old daughter. I CONSTANTLY have to remind myself that she is not my baby any longer and allow her to be her own woman and not try and fix everything for her or give her unsolicited advice thank you

Spirit Filled said...

After dealing with a separation from my husband for almost 6 months...I SURRENDER!!! I am learning to understand the "gap", and move on.