There isn't a marriage that exists without some troubles, baggage, or as I like to call it...marital mess.

I use to think it was just my marriage that went through the storms of matrimony until I parted the curtains in my home and allowed others to feel comfortable parting their curtains - juuuust a little bit. Marriage is sacred and what goes on behind your closed doors is your business, but please know...we already know some of your mess simply because...you're married!

It doesn't matter if you're Buddhist, Christian, Jehovah's Witness, or a non-believer...your marriage endures some 'unhappily' from time to time. Needless to say...no marriage is perfect.

This blog was created only to let you know...you are not alone. Within this blog, my husband and I will periodically share some of our matrimony moments and ultimately share how God (yes, we are believers) always gets the glory - even in our mess.

When you visit UN Happily Married, you don't have to pretend...we already know...

  • You aren't always happy.
  • Marriage is a job requiring overtime hours.
  • Some days you dislike your spouse.
  • There is a thin line between love and hate.
  • Some days you're in love and other days you wonder if you love your spouse at all.
  • There are days you probably wish you were single.
  • Many wives desire more time with their husband
  • Many husbands desire more time away from home - I said many, not all. My husband has admitted that it is hard for some men to stay home. It's just the nature of men with nothing personal against the wife.

We also know there is nothing more you desire than a happy, peaceful, loving marriage without the unhappily days, but such a marriage is non-existence.

After 15 years of marriage, my own marital mess has come to a place of peace in spite of our individual and combined mess. Did it take 15 years? Yes, every day of it (lol) and we're still learning and growing together. There are days (hormones and lack of rest dictate) when I don't feel like playing the part of a wife and I KNOW there are days I drive my husband cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs, but this doesn't change our love for one another.

We may not like each other every day, but we made a vow for the long haul. The haul seems long and laborious sometimes, but we're on this journey together.

This blog is a place to come when you have those moments of 'unhappily' and to be reminded that you are not alone.

This is not a place to receive counsel. It is a place to receive encouragement and support and maybe even a few laughs as we share some of our own marital mess.

Yeah, we're a little different and we've accepted that, and it sure feels good admitting we are just one crazy couple striving to stay alive as we endure our daily warfare living together as one.