She did it - she actually left her husband.
A dear friend of mine has been unhappy in her marriage since the beginning. Trying to do the right thing and make things work, her husband never responded. She couldn't take it any more, so she packed up a few things and left. Not knowing where she was going or how long she'd be gone, she found the nerves to leave.
As I mentioned in the previous post, my father shared with me that sometimes you have to leave a man to get
his attention. Guess what? Three days later, she returned. He had not called to see where she was nor did he call friends or family to inquire her location. He didn't know if she was dead or alive, BUT....
He changed! Can you believe this? He's showing initiative with physical touch, washing a few dishes, PLUS going places and doing things with her. He didn't believe she would ever leave and that's the problem in many marriages. Men think women will continue to take their mess year after year and they don't believe we have the nerves to walk out.
Surprise, Surprise, Surprise! (Gomer Pyle voice)
Anyway, my dear friend says she will stay on her toes and not get comfortable with the 'happy' moment in their marriage. Time has a way of .....well, you know. Things can be okay for a while and before you know it, things go back to normal.
The key is to stay on top of the marriage.
- Stay prayerful - don't wait for confusion to pray.
- Love your spouse - even when they act unlovable (just do your part)
- Out-serve your spouse - place his/her needs before your own
- Don't be so predictable! Spontaneity is spicy - samo samo is boring