I always knew this, but it actually came out of his mouth. My husband doesn't believe men and women are equal because man was created first. Oh. my. goodness.
Honey, I knew you were old school, but this is back in the woods NO school thinking. Sigh....God help me.
My response to hubby? I simply said, "Goodnight Irene."
I "WORK!"
I appreciate my husband going to work everyday - really, I do.
I use to homeschool our two sons, but they are both in school now and I am still at home. I'm sure hubby thinks I cook and clean all day, but I don't. I'm a writer, so I try to spend a few hours reading and writing everyday. I refuse to cook and clean all day, but sometimes that's how the day goes. There is always something to do.
Kevin gets a hot meal when he leaves the house every morning and a hot meal when he returns home - except on Fridays unless I just feel like cooking, which is rare. The least I can do for my working husband is feed him, right?
Kevin says he acknowledges what I do in the home as work, but he sure reminds me that he "WORKS" every day. He actually puts emphasis on the word "work." Okay, so what exactly are you trying to imply? That I don't work? Just because I don't leave the house and interact with co-workers and customers doesn't mean I don't work.
Today, I wasn't going to "work." I was going to relax with the boys and just enjoy the day. You know, take it easy. Before Kevin left for work this morning, he points out two bills that need to be paid. He's old school, so few bills are paid online, which means I have to leave the house, use unnecessary gas, and pay the bills in person. Good grief! Are you trying to make me "work?"
He also adds that I can go grocery shopping, but not to spend too much money. What? Today? Well, there goes my relaxing day! Sometimes I wonder if he finds things for me to do because he wants me to "work."
Regardless of what hubby thinks, I really do appreciate him getting up and going to work everyday. Men take pride in providing for their family and I especially take pride in hubby providing for us because I can stay at home and "work."
Speaking of "work," I guess I need to get up off my butt and get to "work." The boss left a list of things to do. A woman's "work" is never done.
Sigh...hen is my day off!
I use to homeschool our two sons, but they are both in school now and I am still at home. I'm sure hubby thinks I cook and clean all day, but I don't. I'm a writer, so I try to spend a few hours reading and writing everyday. I refuse to cook and clean all day, but sometimes that's how the day goes. There is always something to do.
Kevin gets a hot meal when he leaves the house every morning and a hot meal when he returns home - except on Fridays unless I just feel like cooking, which is rare. The least I can do for my working husband is feed him, right?
Kevin says he acknowledges what I do in the home as work, but he sure reminds me that he "WORKS" every day. He actually puts emphasis on the word "work." Okay, so what exactly are you trying to imply? That I don't work? Just because I don't leave the house and interact with co-workers and customers doesn't mean I don't work.
Today, I wasn't going to "work." I was going to relax with the boys and just enjoy the day. You know, take it easy. Before Kevin left for work this morning, he points out two bills that need to be paid. He's old school, so few bills are paid online, which means I have to leave the house, use unnecessary gas, and pay the bills in person. Good grief! Are you trying to make me "work?"
He also adds that I can go grocery shopping, but not to spend too much money. What? Today? Well, there goes my relaxing day! Sometimes I wonder if he finds things for me to do because he wants me to "work."
Regardless of what hubby thinks, I really do appreciate him getting up and going to work everyday. Men take pride in providing for their family and I especially take pride in hubby providing for us because I can stay at home and "work."
Speaking of "work," I guess I need to get up off my butt and get to "work." The boss left a list of things to do. A woman's "work" is never done.
Sigh...hen is my day off!
Temptation
I attended my 30 year high school class reunion and not only did I see the faces of classmates I had not seen in years, I saw the face of temptation...
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Stick around for the rainbow
More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse. ~Doug Larson
I find this quote full of truth. Many marriages want to call it quits during difficult times. When the boat begins to rock, we want to bail, but there is always sunshine after the rain. It's walking through the storm that is the difficult part. We're afraid of the thunder or afraid we might get struck by a lighting bolt to our pride or to the heart.
Instead of allowing the storm to strengthen us, we seek shelter from it. We hide. We run away.
It's easier said than done, yes, but I've been there, done that, and have a few t-shirts!
I find this quote full of truth. Many marriages want to call it quits during difficult times. When the boat begins to rock, we want to bail, but there is always sunshine after the rain. It's walking through the storm that is the difficult part. We're afraid of the thunder or afraid we might get struck by a lighting bolt to our pride or to the heart.
Instead of allowing the storm to strengthen us, we seek shelter from it. We hide. We run away.
It's easier said than done, yes, but I've been there, done that, and have a few t-shirts!
Birthday Blessings
Hubby came through with flying colors on my birthday. Being a writer, you'd think I'd have the latest and greatest equipment and programs to do what I do best, but I don't. I'm old fashioned and still use a pen and a pad of paper to write. I still use an old program of Word and Outlook. Funny huh? Well, hubby hooked me up for my birthday. He even purchased a few of my favorite things. It's good to know that your spouse knows what you like and what you need. It shows they are paying attention to the little things that bring you joy.
I admit, I'm not an easy person to shop for. Hmph...I'm not an easy person to do anything for! So, for hubby to bless me the way he did, he gets brownie points for the rest of the year. The longer we're married, the more we get to know each other and understand one another. We THOUGHT we knew each other when we said, I Do, but it takes years to merge into a oneness.
For those of you who are left wondering on birthdays and anniversaries, I've been there, done that, and have the t-shirt. It gets better over time, so hang in there and I choose to believe the spouse is doing the best they can!
I admit, I'm not an easy person to shop for. Hmph...I'm not an easy person to do anything for! So, for hubby to bless me the way he did, he gets brownie points for the rest of the year. The longer we're married, the more we get to know each other and understand one another. We THOUGHT we knew each other when we said, I Do, but it takes years to merge into a oneness.
For those of you who are left wondering on birthdays and anniversaries, I've been there, done that, and have the t-shirt. It gets better over time, so hang in there and I choose to believe the spouse is doing the best they can!
Updating My Marriage!
If my frequency to write on this site is any indication to how I treat my marriage, I'm headed for destruction. It's been a while since I posted here...LIFE happens. The family gets busy and I get distracted, so certain things are put on the back burner.
I tend to treat my marriage the same way - placing it on the back burner until I remember..."Oh! my husband needs some attention; he's supposed to be first!" Oops... As I mentioned, LIFE happens and the family gets busy, but keeping marriage a priority is so crucial. This weekend, I'll have to do a few special things to let hubby know he's still number one. Whether I feel like doing anything or not, letting time go by without nurturing your spouse takes a toll on the marriage.
Just as I've neglected this site, my husband has been neglected also. Do I feel neglected? LOL! Of course I do, but I must do MY part. Remember, how our spouse treats us is not our business. That's between them and God. I must do MY part and be accountable for my own actions! It doesn't matter if the spouse is understanding or not and it doesn't matter if they are guilty of this also. Every spouse wants to feel validated, feel special, and know they are number one!
I feel better knowing I've updated this site, so I KNOW I'll feel better updating my marriage! It's time for renewal!
Be good to your spouse!
I tend to treat my marriage the same way - placing it on the back burner until I remember..."Oh! my husband needs some attention; he's supposed to be first!" Oops... As I mentioned, LIFE happens and the family gets busy, but keeping marriage a priority is so crucial. This weekend, I'll have to do a few special things to let hubby know he's still number one. Whether I feel like doing anything or not, letting time go by without nurturing your spouse takes a toll on the marriage.
Just as I've neglected this site, my husband has been neglected also. Do I feel neglected? LOL! Of course I do, but I must do MY part. Remember, how our spouse treats us is not our business. That's between them and God. I must do MY part and be accountable for my own actions! It doesn't matter if the spouse is understanding or not and it doesn't matter if they are guilty of this also. Every spouse wants to feel validated, feel special, and know they are number one!
I feel better knowing I've updated this site, so I KNOW I'll feel better updating my marriage! It's time for renewal!
Be good to your spouse!
Behind The Scenes
Me: "Good Morning, my priest, provider, and protector!"
Kevin: "Good Morning, my queen, meal maker, clothes cleaner, and housekeeper."
Me: SILENCE
Me: "Can I put this on our blog?"
Kevin: Laughs
You see what I deal with? Kevin sure better thank God that I know Jesus, that I KNOW my role in the home and in our marriage, and especially that I have a sense of humor! His old school ways will drive a woman away!
I later called him at work to tell him I loved him. Below is our conversation...
Me: "Hey there, how is your day going?"
Kevin: "Hot!"
Me: "Oh, I'm sorry. Well, I just called to say I love you."
Kevin: "I love you too. What are you doing?"
Me: "Getting dinner ready."
Kevin: "Oh, you're being my meal maker?"
Me: "Yeah, now get back to work, Provider!"
The conversation ended in laughter and I HAD to write about it....release...release...release...
Kevin: "Good Morning, my queen, meal maker, clothes cleaner, and housekeeper."
Me: SILENCE
Me: "Can I put this on our blog?"
Kevin: Laughs
You see what I deal with? Kevin sure better thank God that I know Jesus, that I KNOW my role in the home and in our marriage, and especially that I have a sense of humor! His old school ways will drive a woman away!
I later called him at work to tell him I loved him. Below is our conversation...
Me: "Hey there, how is your day going?"
Kevin: "Hot!"
Me: "Oh, I'm sorry. Well, I just called to say I love you."
Kevin: "I love you too. What are you doing?"
Me: "Getting dinner ready."
Kevin: "Oh, you're being my meal maker?"
Me: "Yeah, now get back to work, Provider!"
The conversation ended in laughter and I HAD to write about it....release...release...release...
Let Me Help You
When hubby and the boys asks me what I want for Mother's day, I usually say the motherly correct answers such as, "being your mother is the only gift I need" or "Nothing, I have everything I could ever want or need" or "Love, Peace, and Happiness"
This Mother's Day was different. I made a list of specific things I wanted. It wasn't a long list, but just a few of my favorite things: sushi, chocolate ice cream, Chunkie Chips, control of the television remote, and to be left alone.
I received everything on my list and it was the best Mother's Day I ever had. Hmmm...I guess I need to help them out more often instead of hoping they'll think of things I enjoy or hoping they'll do anything at all. Believe me, I've had Mother's Day celebrations where I ended up in the kitchen cooking. I'm not a big fan of Mother's Day anyway, but who doesn't want to be validated? If mothers only have one day out of the year, good grief get it right!
Hubby was happy yesterday also because I was happy. He didn't stress the big day and as a matter of fact, he went overboard and purchased a few other snacks to make my day special. I couldn't eat everything, but I sure tried. I enjoy food instead of flowers....take me to dinner instead of a move!
This morning, Kevin mentioned that Mother's Day is the only day I can make a list. Hmmm..my birthday is next month, so I guess he caught a clue. Too funny! All these years I expected him to make those special days special and all those years, he needed a little help from his HELPMATE. Some men are good at it and some need a little help. My hubby needed a little help.
This Mother's Day was different. I made a list of specific things I wanted. It wasn't a long list, but just a few of my favorite things: sushi, chocolate ice cream, Chunkie Chips, control of the television remote, and to be left alone.
I received everything on my list and it was the best Mother's Day I ever had. Hmmm...I guess I need to help them out more often instead of hoping they'll think of things I enjoy or hoping they'll do anything at all. Believe me, I've had Mother's Day celebrations where I ended up in the kitchen cooking. I'm not a big fan of Mother's Day anyway, but who doesn't want to be validated? If mothers only have one day out of the year, good grief get it right!
Hubby was happy yesterday also because I was happy. He didn't stress the big day and as a matter of fact, he went overboard and purchased a few other snacks to make my day special. I couldn't eat everything, but I sure tried. I enjoy food instead of flowers....take me to dinner instead of a move!
This morning, Kevin mentioned that Mother's Day is the only day I can make a list. Hmmm..my birthday is next month, so I guess he caught a clue. Too funny! All these years I expected him to make those special days special and all those years, he needed a little help from his HELPMATE. Some men are good at it and some need a little help. My hubby needed a little help.
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