It Really Does Get Easier
My husband was
so excited yesterday to attend a class offered at church titled, The
Measure of a Man.
After eighteen years of marriage, now he wants to be educated on the measure
of a man. Don’t get me wrong; I’m grateful, but where was this class when we
were going through hell? We’ve taken quite a few marriage classes and even led
the Couples’ Ministry at church. I’m here to tell you – hubby and I have the
real deal marriage. We are complete opposites and we experience our share of
ups, downs, arguments, seasons of bliss, and even entertained divorce.
I had a
thought last night – marriage is like wisdom…it doesn’t come until you’ve
experienced all the bumps, bruises, and battles of life and by that time,
you’re on your way out of the land of the living. Now that I’ve experienced
some of those bumps and bruises, I know the early years of our marriage were only
a test of our will to survive the marriage. The middle years of marriage were a
test of our patience and longsuffering. The surviving years (where we are now)
are continual pop tests of trusting God. I pray our final years will be…years
of contentment? Marriage gets easier, but the bumps keep coming. Hubby’s eleven-week
class is an overdue tune-up for our marriage. No tune-up, no marriage….and
that’s NO JOKE.
For those of you entertaining the thought of leaving your
marriage or stuck in a season of staleness or suffering, don’t look at your
husband’s face, your circumstances, or other couples faking the funk, but look
to God. Unless you’re in an abusive relationship, stand strong through your
seasons. It doesn’t matter what your situation is (I’ve experienced it all), God
is real. Don’t walk out before you’re shown the measure of your man. Do your
part and God will surely do His. I’m a witness!
Guest Blogger
I came across this post today and wanted to share. I love "keeping it real" writing.
QueenBee and Company - On Being Married
It Takes Time
Marriage is a course in the school of life in which one never graduates from, but you sure do learn a lot about yourself and what love
is REALLY all about.
I'm a witness, marriage does get better with time, but if you bail out early, you'll never see the better, but you'll definitely end up bitter.
Marriage is like a fine wine...it takes years to make a sweet juice and you sure can't rush it. It's a process - a looong process requiring a lot of patience and understanding. Marriage isn't for wimps!
I'm a witness, marriage does get better with time, but if you bail out early, you'll never see the better, but you'll definitely end up bitter.
Marriage is like a fine wine...it takes years to make a sweet juice and you sure can't rush it. It's a process - a looong process requiring a lot of patience and understanding. Marriage isn't for wimps!
Midlife Crisis
By Sarah Mahoney- Good Housekeeping
Myth : Every guy has a midlife crisis - any day, your spouse will drive off in a new red sports car.
It's true that men sometimes do crazy things when they reach a certain age. You may feel like snickering at some of their attempts to regain their lost youth, like the balding executive who gets a spanking-new Harley - or a much younger girlfriend. Such drastic changes are fortunately far from commonplace outside the soaps, but psychologists say that most of us will go through a period of midlife reevaluation.
New rule: It's not a crisis - and it's not just for men.
Actually, this period of reexamination is a healthy part of development. As people move into their 40s, 50s, and beyond, their perspectives shift. Careers may plateau or take off in unexpected new directions. The first serious health problem may come along, or a parent may die and spur you to rethink your priorities. All of these are natural, inevitable transitions, and the best approach to dealing with them is to learn what you can and follow where they lead you. Fortunately, most people do: A recent poll by volunteermatch.org found that more than half of those over 55 are looking forward to starting new chapters in their lives.
More and more the phrase "midlife crisis" is being swapped for "reinvention"; all across America, you can hear men and women talking about their second acts. But rarely do they mean a full-scale life overhaul. More often they're contemplating ways to make more time for what they already love. Men who have done a little woodworking take on a deck redesign; women who have always wanted more time to get in shape sign up for their first triathlon.
Not only are these course corrections good for us as individuals, they also seem to invigorate our relationships. People in their 40s and 50s feel they have more control over their work, their finances, and their marriages, reports a multi-university study. Some crisis, huh? Instead of worrying about his issues, focus on whether you're ripe for reinvention yourself. Rediscover your priorities, and above all, don't feel you're being selfish by pursuing your passion: What's good for you is good for your marriage, too.
Cheating...Why?
Love this!
Cheating, Infidelity, Creeping, or whatever you want to call it...it's all WRONG!
Marriage vows seem to mean very little to the majority of society these days. Having a
television show called, Cheaters, is just ridiculous. Why? Why on the planet Earth
would a show like that be aired? smh...
Every marriage has a story!
If you've been married for any amount of time, you are obviously having a successful marriage.
Every marriage will endure problems and your marriage may be going through a difficult storm right now, but hang in there!
Don't be afraid to share your story with someone else who has gone through what you've already survived. Nothing is new under the sun, and although the issues may not be exact, often the solutions are.
Patience, understanding, forgiving, acceptance, prayer, etc...
Share your story and help another couple realize they aren't alone.
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