You Don't Control Me!
I’ve been assisting a gentleman get a program off the ground
and he’s a little bossy. I think he forgets that I’m not his employee; I
volunteered to help him. I don’t like being told what to do – at all. Anyway, I
had to put this Mister in his place. You
don’t tell me what to do; you ask me. Who does he think he is – Mr. Control? I’m
sure it’s just his nature, but it doesn’t mesh with my nature at all; I have my
own control issues.
I know wives with controlling husbands or married to a man who
has taken the “leader” position to an ungodly level. No woman should be afraid
to stand up or speak up for herself. No wife should be afraid to spend money or
come and go as she pleases – within reason, of course.
I understand we need
someone to be accountable to in marriage, but who is the man being accountable
to for his spending and his going and coming?
I’m just asking! My attitude is justified. I’m aware of too many unhappy
wives who are being submissive to
raggedy husbands – husbands who are verbally or mentally abusive, controlling,
and some are cheating. Let’s not even speak of physical abuse – no excuse for
it at all. My attitude is probably why I’ve had issues in my own marriage. Only
God controls me.
Some of you may not
agree and that’s fine; but I make no apologies for speaking up when something
just doesn’t seem right, and control in marriage IS NOT RIGHT. There is a way
to treat and speak to a woman. We are precious jewels – daughters of a King,
and we deserve to be treated and talked to as such. I’m sorry, Mister, but you
don’t control me…my God does! Maybe this is the root of the problem with
submission. If husbands were led by God, wives would gladly follow!
Fixing What's Broken
Unless the light bulb is cracked and broken...you can't fix a broken light bulb!
It's Not About You
When you get married, it's no longer about you - about your needs - about your happiness, but it's about your spouse. Putting your spouse's needs before your own is just one small factor to a successful marriage.
Short-Lived Marriages
In marriage days of old, couples stayed married regardless of what was going on. The fifty, sixty, and even seventy year wedding anniversaries will be few and far between with the present generations. Divorce is so common...so frequent. Women these days put up with very little. When they've reached their limit, they're gone. No more years of forgiveness for unfaithfulness.
Back in the day, the couple would just sleep in separate beds or even separate rooms and call it a night. Funny how things change, but it's a reality how people change. As the people change, circumstances change and because many of us don't like change, the divorce card is played. Waaay too easy!
Long lasting or short-lived, the concept of marriage has changed with the changing world, however, keep your marriage sacred and set apart from the opinions of society. If you choose to stay, stay. It's really no one's business! If you choose to leave, leave...you're the one that has to deal with what no one sees behind closed doors.
After all, a closed door doesn't mean it's locked.
Back in the day, the couple would just sleep in separate beds or even separate rooms and call it a night. Funny how things change, but it's a reality how people change. As the people change, circumstances change and because many of us don't like change, the divorce card is played. Waaay too easy!
Long lasting or short-lived, the concept of marriage has changed with the changing world, however, keep your marriage sacred and set apart from the opinions of society. If you choose to stay, stay. It's really no one's business! If you choose to leave, leave...you're the one that has to deal with what no one sees behind closed doors.
After all, a closed door doesn't mean it's locked.
Our First Valentine's Day
Happy Valentine's Day!
I recalled my first Valentine's Day as a married woman...
On our first Valentine’s Day, hubby walked out the house and
came home with a little cheap teddy bear in a tiny, dusty flower pot with an
artificial rose attached to it. I remember this like it happened yesterday, and
I also remember throwing that mess in the trash can as soon as he handed it to
me. Did he really think his last minute, gas station gift would please me? I
couldn’t believe it. We haven’t celebrated Valentine’s Day since that day and
this month we are celebrating our nineteenth wedding anniversary. Did I react
too harshly? I could have acted like
I was grateful, but the truth sets me free.
Over the years, hubby and I have had many discussions about love and
Valentine’s Day. Love isn’t a gift, a card, or flowers, but love is hard work, sweat,
and tears. Love is forgiving and acceptance. Our marriage has endured some
difficult times and has been on the verge of divorce. Our marriage reminds me
of the long process a diamond goes through before it is considered authentic.
Marriage also goes through a long process, but many of us bail when the process
begins to hurt. Marriages have to go through some fire! Hubby and I not only
went through the fire, we’ve gone through hell, but we’re still standing. Love
conquers ALL…love endures ALL. I often
go around the house singing Foreigner’s song, “I want to know what love is.” The
truth is, God is the only one who can show me what love is and if I don’t have
God in my heart, I will never be able to show love to others – not even to the
man I vowed to love all my life – my hubby – my Valentine.
With today being Valentine's Day, I think I may have been bitten by the love bug because I'm cooking a special meal for hubby and my two sons. I'm strangely excited about this special dinner especially since cooking is not my forte'. I'm sure the family will be pleased since everyone enjoys a little special treatment every now and then.
Happy Valentine's Day to you, and don’t look to receive, but look for opportunities to give... today and every day – give
love!
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